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Jeffrey Zaslow, Randy PauschA modern alternative to SparkNotes and CliffsNotes, SuperSummary offers high-quality Study Guides with detailed chapter summaries and analysis of major themes, characters, and more. For select classroom titles, we also provide Teaching Guides with discussion and quiz questions to prompt student engagement.
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Chapter Summaries & Analyses
Section 1, Chapters 1-3
Section 2, Chapters 4-5
Section 2, Chapters 6-7
Section 2, Chapters 8-11
Section 3, Chapters 12-15
Section 3, Chapters 16-19
Section 3, Chapters 20-22
Section 4, Chapters 23-24
Section 4, Chapters 25-27
Section 5, Chapters 28-31
Section 5, Chapters 32-34
Section 5, Chapters 35-37
Section 5, Chapters 38-40
Section 5, Chapters 41-45
Section 5, Chapters 46-50
Section 5, Chapters 51-55
Section 5, Chapters 56-58
Section 6, Chapters 59-61
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Important Quotes
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Chapter 20 focuses on Pausch’s father and how Pausch learned a surprising truth about his dad after his death. While searching through his dad’s things, Pausch “came upon mysteries that made [him] smile” (94). While leafing through a pile of documents, Pausch found a citation for “heroic achievement” from when his father was in the army. He had risked his own life to administer medical attention to wounded soldiers and because of his actions, “all the wounded were evacuated successfully” (96). For his heroism, Pausch’s dad was awarded the Bronze Star for valor. This revelation became an intense experience in humility for Pausch.
Chapter 21 describes Jai’s frank treatment of Pausch. Even though Pausch drives her crazy with his annoying habits around the house—such as not putting dishes away–their therapist encourages them to let the little stuff go, in order to enjoy the time they have left together. As a result, “Jai tries to focus on today, rather than the negative things down the road” (99). She tells Pausch that she has “four very good reasons to suck it up and keep going” (100). She seeks support from other people whose spouses have terminal illnesses and strives to focus on happier memories.
In the last chapter of this section Pausch shares a brief vignette about being pulled over by a police officer for speeding. When the officer questioned him, Pausch bluntly told him of his diagnosis with terminal cancer, even lifting up his shirt to reveal his surgical scars. The policeman let him go with a warning to slow down.
Pausch’s respect for Jai and her infinite patience and “frankness” with him resonates with the preceding chapter about his father’s war honors. They both speak to the importance of humility, something that every person needs. His father’s secret award for bravery reminds Pausch that not all big accomplishments should be broadcast, that simply doing the right thing is the reward. Pausch is similarly impressed by Jai’s bravery in dealing with his terminal illness, as well as her bold honesty with him and their relationship troubles.
As Chapter 22 reminds us, sometimes the truth can set you free. Even though this chapter only recounts a small story about Pausch getting out of a speeding ticket by being brutally candid about his illness, it serves as a metaphor for the honesty necessary between himself and Jai, and for their acceptance of his illness. It’s only after they acknowledge the “elephant in the room” that can they go about their lives with no regrets.